19th and looking beyond!

 This is it! I said to myself. Growing up in a milieu of knowing that we live to work, earn and have fun, the grown-up me was facing a new meaning to life....MARRAIGE! I never knew or was told that this would eventually happen. But it did, and how! 

A 24-year-old me, had no concrete plans charted out, professionally, yet persuasive enough to contribute meaningfully to the world around me and if possible, beyond. And knowing what makes me happy, continue to give time, no matter how much, to my happy space. Life was good, bad, ugly and all of that. Then came the windfall moment. This guy pops up to curtly share his feelings and intention to marry me. 

I have been a kind who rarely gets perturbed by romantic approaches. But this was a different kind that intended to directly place me at the altar. I took time, but one chance feeling that having a companion who doesn't want to change me and repeatedly keep my way open to leave him if I ever feel trapped, overpowered my rational self. I said Yes to the proposal and here we are 20 years thence. 

A lot of triumphs and tribulations after, a lot of laughter and tears later, with a bright spark of our only child to keep us live and kicking, we are today married for 19 years. Our times together have never been about clinging onto each other or holding the other accountable for the troubles of life, but about finding a workable solution. We are two individuals with adequate space around us to retain the self.

I am glad we made it to this 19th year, and know we will for times to come...